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How I Met My Husband Online *

There are many people in the world today that believe that anyone looking for romance online is desperate and lonely for companionship. Although this may be true in a few cases, for the most part, those who seek out others online do so because they either haven't the time to socialize in order to find a partner, or are tired of checking out the usual places with disappointing results.

We all come to the relationship table with a shopping list of qualities and attributes that we hope to find in our ideal mate. Finding a single person who fits this list is difficult given the time constraints most people have in today’s busy society. The Internet offers an alternative to an hour at the local bar or leisure center. By being part of mailing lists that are specific to the interests you love; you will meet like-minded people around the world.

You could of course join an internet dating agency, but that suggests you are more serious about finding a partner than perhaps you want to admit, even to yourself! Online dating is a way of finding out whether or not a person meets your criteria whilst maintaining a certain amount of anonymity.
I found my husband online. It didn't start out that way. He was looking for a pen friend, and so was I. I replied to his message. Six years later we are happily married with two little boys.

What most people want to know is how we got from that first exchange of email to where we are today, and were we scared about what we were doing-after all we hardly knew each other when we married. This last piece is the key to everything, and the most common misconception of those who haven't experienced an online relationship that led to something tangible. The most important thing about dating online is honesty. If you are looking for a partner, you must be honest about yourself and what you are looking for, and even then it sometimes isn't enough.

Prior to meeting my husband I had cyber-dated another guy. That didn't work out because I wasn't sure what I was looking for, and neither was he. We were both honest about what we thought we wanted, but we were wrong. This is where many online relationships go awry. It's imperative that you know exactly what you want before you start looking-but this applies equally to offline relationships as countless divorce papers will testify.

I wasn't looking for romance when I met Mikael, but as our emails started to mount up into hundreds of weekly written conversations, we realized that we had found what we were both looking for. I have to confess that Mikael knew this first. I was a little nervous, after having one failed online relationship that this one would go the same way. Eventually it wasn't enough to just be pen friends. I wanted it to be official that I was Mikael's girlfriend-I guess I wanted assurance that he wouldn't look for someone else! We first met online in early September of 1997 and by February of 1998 I knew that I had found my special someone.

Unfortunately we lived in different countries and it wasn't until Easter of 1998 that I was able to get time off work to travel to Sweden to find out if we were as right together in real time as we seemed to be online. The minute I looked into his eyes for the first time, I knew I was right. Everything that we had exchanged fell into place. Honesty had paid off. I knew this person-he wasn't a stranger. Leaving him at the end of the holiday was more painful then I could explain. The emails we exchanged took on a whole different meaning because we knew we were destined to be together. None of our friends were consulted on the matter, and our respective families were told about how we felt-no debate invited. We knew what was right for us.

We were married in the UK, August 1998, and we maintained a cyber-marriage until January of 1999 when I moved out to Sweden. Jake, our firstborn son, was born in July 2000. Connor, the baby, was born July 2003. I can say that these past years have been the happiest of my life and that this is because of the man I met online, and the love we share.

I know of many Internet relationships that have turned sour because people didn't correspond about what was important to them honestly enough before they tried to turn it into a permanent relationship. On the other hand, I know of many online successes like my own. People who spend much time discussing their beliefs, hopes, dreams and fears in countless emails before physically meeting their cyber-partner, are the people who will find they have a solid relationship to build upon.

My strongest supporter was my mother, who even after six years of marriage, refers to Mikael and I as the Siamese Twins because we are so seldom apart! Unlike many of my friends, she actually understood what was happening. To anyone who questioned her about my marriage to Mikael she answered that we had talked more to each other about things that were really important because we didn't have the opportunity for the physical contact that usually carries along a normal relationship. As usual, she was right! It was all the talking then, which laid the firm foundation of true friendship and love we enjoy now.

There are those online who are out to deceive or mislead. There are those who are not what they set themselves out to be. But there are similar people in real life too. Many people are leading double lives, sometimes with different women and children in different towns. It happens. Many of my friends, who date in the conventional way, have been disappointed in love over and over again. If someone wants to deceive another person, they don't need the Internet to do it, and there are ways for anyone online to check up on the person they are serious about, should they choose to check them up. As for me, I'm a cyber-bride and proud of it!An engagement ring is an important purchase as it marks a special time in the lives of two people. As with any important decision, a little time and energy should be spent preparing and planning.

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